Hello everyone - Page 2

Cheryl Weller · #11 November 19th, 2009 11:01 PM

A big Hello and Welcome to Alelveclait and Goldeelocks,
I'm sure that like me, you'll love the support, friendship and love you'll find here.

rosiered · #12 November 19th, 2009 11:55 PM

Hello Goldeelocks, I sure know about emotions. I worked very hard 3 years ago and lost over 60 pounds and was able to keep it off for 2 years. Then last year I had a very emotional time with a family member and it set me off. I gained all but 20 pounds of what I had lost in a few short months! I've been on the GM since mid September. I listen to the CD every night and sometimes in the afternoons. I feel it's my lifeline. I have tried to stay away from the scale because it doesn't want to move down to where I want it to fast enough. As winter is coming on here, I'm really going to have to let go and trust that this program is working for me. With a lot of snow, my outside activeties will be very short. So, I'll be listening more to the CD! Best of everything to you. rosiered

Vivienne · #13 November 20th, 2009 02:32 AM

Hi everyone,
I am new to this as well and would like to introduce myself.

I am a single Mum of 3 beautiful Daughters and I turned 50 this year. I only read the book (1st time) last weekend, by random selection............... I was heading into a full on verbal slanging match with my eldest daughter (nearly 15 and the font of all knowledge on this planet) when something said "hold your tongue, remove yourself from this confrontation"..... well I was standing beside the bookcase and just grabbed a book off the shelf at random and headed for my room. I looked at the book i had grabbed to see it was Jon's book which I had received 6 months earlier and just filed it on the bookcase at the time cos "I didn't have time" to read it.

Does any of this sound familiar to anyone?? In just 1 week things are changing. My temper is better, I haven't touched a glass of wine all week (ok so I have none in the house at the moment) but that is beside the point I haven't wanted a drink, and I have been drinking fresh squeezed juice every morning and have bought the supplements suggested in the book. I already feel fantastic.

I haven't yet worked out what my issues are that have caused my weight gain, I need to read the book again before that enlightens me. I did, however read several threads yesterday which gave me tingly moments, and a few lightbulbs went on..... so I suspect i have more than 1 or 2 issues to confront.

You all sound so genuine and friendly, I already feel like I have found a safe place to visit.

Regards Vivienne

sooty · #14 November 20th, 2009 02:39 AM

Welcome Vivienne, yes it is a great place to visit. Everyone is so nice and supportive here. There is no judgment just a lot of love flowing freely. Will be looking forward to hearing about your journey.
Sooty WA

Vivienne · #15 November 20th, 2009 02:47 AM

Thank you sooty, and I feel a little guilty I should have said welcome to the other new members who posted before me. Welcome to all of you - may we all have fun, love and support on this journey together. I am glad I made this choice already. And so many of you are just up, or down the Hume Highway from me, I feel even better about that

"We are not Alone!!!"

Love Viv

Marie · #16 November 20th, 2009 09:48 AM

Hi Vivienne, Welcome to a really good place. No-one is judgemental here. We've all been throught the hoop one way or another.
15 year old daughters, God love 'em, because they can be very hard to like sometimes.
I had a really dreadful time when my daughter was 15. I remember being in the local supermarket at the time and complaining to the checkout lady about my daughter when the manager came up and said something that proved to be very true.
He said "Affectionate daughters seem to disappear at about 13 or 14 and become these unknowable monsters, but believe me, they come back at about 19 or 20 as lovely young ladies". I hung onto that and in the end mine did.
I do believe you have to turn a blind eye (and ear) to a lot of what they say and do at that time. They are really testing the waters as to what is acceptable and often speak before they think.
Good luck!!!

Marie

Vivienne · #17 November 20th, 2009 09:23 PM

Thanks Marie,
I know deep down my eldest is a good person, she was born with a natural abhorance for people doing the wrong thing, morally and legally, I know she is loyal to her real friends and she can recognise fair weather friends almost instantly, also she is not afraid to speak up on behalf of friends whether that be to an authority figure, adult or other teenager, I am actually very proud of her and my other 2 daughters. It is just that she has a tendency to attack when I say or do something to upset her and it can be very soul destroying, because she hits home on the mark every time and makes me feel both guilty and inadequate!!!! does any of that make sense?

CateDeansSmith · #18 November 21st, 2009 10:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Vivienne

Thanks Marie,
I know deep down my eldest is a good person, she was born with a natural abhorance for people doing the wrong thing, morally and legally, I know she is loyal to her real friends and she can recognise fair weather friends almost instantly, also she is not afraid to speak up on behalf of friends whether that be to an authority figure, adult or other teenager, I am actually very proud of her and my other 2 daughters. It is just that she has a tendency to attack when I say or do something to upset her and it can be very soul destroying, because she hits home on the mark every time and makes me feel both guilty and inadequate!!!! does any of that make sense?

Makes perfect sense

And I guess it is hard, after being "mumliness is next to godliness" for the first part of their lives (that's where I am at the moment ... mum can do no wrong, mostly

), then they realise that we are human - just at the same moment that they begin to believe they now understand everything

And how to take the comments when 1. they show no respect and yet 2. they are true, and 3. we feel rubbish when we hear how far from perfect we are, and 4. we know they are no better

!!!

Not a time of life I am looking forward to!

yoyogirl · #19 November 21st, 2009 10:55 AM

lol! Welcome to all new comers!

This forum can be a great lifeline when you need it, and just a great place to hang and chat when you want to as well!!

As a mum of a 14 and a half year old daughter, I couldn't help but agree with the last couple of posts!! Oh dear it has been a wonderful rollercoaster!

Full on fights are all too common with our precious princesses!

I actually lost my cool about a month ago and swore at mine. I felt sooooo bad. Not good. Tears, remorse, etc. Then I rang my sister to chat and told her what happened and she reminded me that the first time we ever heard my mum swear was when we were about the same age (my sister and I are 17 months apart) and mum called us "bloody little bitches!" Well, we laughed and laughed and laughed some more! We really were, too. At times. A good reminder that it is tough sometimes, and sometimes we just need to have good support, a little laugh, lots of forgiveness and be able to move on with LOVE

Vivienne · #20 November 23rd, 2009 02:44 AM

Hi Cate,
Oh boy did you hit the nail on the head. We had another "discussion" last night and the four letter words were being hurled left, right and centre. It ended with me saying "I wish I could go back 15 years and not have you". Then I felt so guilty I went to my room and cried. However, something must have sunk in over night cos she was extra nice this morning........................maybe I might have struck a nerve too.